JuLee's Fairly Tale

CALLING IN THE ONE – LESSON 5 A Fairy Tale about My Life

JuLee Pallette

November 2009

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A Fairly Tale (fairly ridiculous? fairly possible?)

Once upon a time, there lived a Woman who had grown up believing that everything in Life had to be worked, fought and struggled for. Oh….and that She had to work, fight and struggle for it On Her Own.

You see, in Her childhood, a spell had been cast on Her by Her parents. And She so wanted to be loved by Her parents that She did work, fight and struggle Her way through Life.

Consequently, She didn’t have a lot of Fun in Her Life….She didn’t even really know what Fun was….or Love for that matter. But slowly, through Her Life and especially Her many relationship experiences, She began to learn what Fun….and Love…. was. For you see, this Woman was very passionate about learning about Life – especially those things that related to the spiritual/energetic/emotional aspects of Life. Slowly, She opened Her heart to others. And even more slowly, She opened Her heart to Herself. Each person in Her life, each relationship, taught Her more and more about Herself. She saw how so much of Life was about letting go/releasing what She DIDN’T want – to be or have in Her Life – in order to open up and make room for what She DID want.

And as She became more and more consciously aware of Her choices and what She wanted, She began to draw into Her Life new people and experiences. These people and experiences were emotionally intelligent, loving and consciously aware – everything She was growing to be Herself. She could share Her energy and emotions and intellectual insights and epiphanies with these people and they shared theirs with Her. They talked shadow and light, “good” and “bad”. And with this new community of friends, She also met a special Man to whom She felt particularly drawn. And He felt drawn to Her. He was gentle yet direct in His communication with no fear of “bad” emotions versus “good”. He brought Her small gifts of treats, flowers, books, little trinkets – things He thought She would enjoy. Soon They started taking little trips together – He had places He wanted to share with Her and She had places She wanted to share with Him. And They found new places to experience together. She was so happy. She could openly discuss and share both Her positive and not-so-positive human traits. This Man was not afraid of not-so-positive human traits...Hers or anyone elses..... for He had his too. And They accepted that in Each Other; though at times, They had to consciously communicate Their feelings of not feeling connected so They could respect that too. He was so taken with how fascinated She was with being human…and thinking about and interacting with that. It stimulated and inspired Him.

They were so excited to introduce Each Other to Their friends and family, who saw how much They cared about Each Other and were so happy for Them. In the past, They had both had such struggles in Their personal intimate relationships. So much fighting and arguing. But with Each Other, when upset (and especially when upset with Each Other), They could just express Their feelings. The Other would acknowledge and express Theirs…and then They would work toward a mutually acceptable solution. There was no need of fighting…or defensiveness.

And the best thing of all, even when They were upset with Each Other, They could still feel a connection of Love. That was the connection that drove Them to talk about what was bothering Them. And when They did, that connection strengthened – like the sun coming out after a cloudy day.

Wow! This Woman felt so blessed to have this network of friends and this special Man in Her Life. She felt so valued and wanted by Him – sexually, socially, emotionally, mentally and energetically. He had women friends that He was close to but She felt so secure in Her relationship with Him and He was so attentive to Her emotions that She had no problem with them. And all of these women friends opened themselves to Her and She to them so they became friends also.

They never got married but They lived together in a beautiful house with a beautiful yard and traveled together and read together and enjoyed Their friends and family together until the end of Their Life together. And the Woman saw how so much of Her Life had been about experiencing what She didn’t want just so She could get more and more clear about what She did want. And in Her 40s, She finally did. And that was when the struggle, fight and work in Her Life just dropped away…and Her Life intersected with His…..